tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post470884588526177069..comments2024-01-01T23:50:46.656+00:00Comments on Inside Martyn's Thoughts: StereotypingMartyn Kitney http://www.blogger.com/profile/07564829931381366013noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-67245241152791751432015-02-14T18:00:21.051+00:002015-02-14T18:00:21.051+00:00Thanks for your comment. It's interesting to r...Thanks for your comment. It's interesting to read that. I have only seen some stereotyping of women in the instances you have described. But either way the fact is true that people do stereotype people onto expected groups. Often when in truth they were just doing what we all do. <br />I have never had the cooing father routine. I have one friend who compliments me but apart from her I have only ever been tarred with the above stereotypes. I wonder if it's individual to your character then? I often have people poking their noses in to what I do and hardly ever praised. It's a shame then that your ex was like that. I do know some single dad's who are rewarded for their fathering but they're also what I would class as charming people in public. Ones who can win people over.<br />Thank you. This is one reason why I blog, apart from having online documents, I like to show my good and bad points as it's great to get help, support and gratitude despite, like most parents,how tough it is. But you're right I do care and that's why I write. Thanks again for commenting!Martyn Kitney https://www.blogger.com/profile/07564829931381366013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-20559161363333564942015-02-14T17:38:23.244+00:002015-02-14T17:38:23.244+00:00Great post.
I think generally, society has differ...Great post. <br />I think generally, society has different expectations of mothers and fathers. I did a post about it a while back. Quite often mothers are judged on all sorts of levels, and often found falling short if we get drunk every now and then or give our kids chips for tea. On the other hand, fathers often just have to turn up to get a cooing round of "ahh, what a great dad!" <br />This does nobody any favours. Fathers should be held to the same standards as mothers, and all should want to take an active role in their kids' lives as you do. <br />When I met my ex, he had 6 children living with him; everyone said what a great father he was to have them live with him when their mother had disappeared. I soon discovered that while everyone thought he was a good father for keeping them with him, he was actually physically and emotionally abusing them on a daily basis. If that had been a mother on her own, people would have been poking their noses in and something might have been done - but because he was a single father, everyone was just impressed he managed to get them dressed and none had any broken bones. <br />We should all have to prove we're good parents - being a mother doesn't mean I would be a better teacher than you; it's about individual qualities, not gender. <br />Also, I think the fact you have a blog and write about these things goes some way to proving you must be a good dad - if you didn't care, you wouldn't bother writing about it!Single Mother Ahoyhttp://www.singlemotherahoy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-6634045142146701112015-01-29T13:26:23.936+00:002015-01-29T13:26:23.936+00:00Couldn't agree more. If good dad's were sh...Couldn't agree more. If good dad's were shown, regularly, then you have more chance of seeing more sons growing up by a leading example. Rather than just assuming that a good Dad is a rare one.<br /><br />And thank you. I'd always be happy breaking stereotypes and standing alone, if needs be, to prove that I'm a good dad and that there are good dads out there. As yourself and other dad's on the dad network have shown.Martyn Kitney https://www.blogger.com/profile/07564829931381366013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-71603191981180347402015-01-29T12:34:52.470+00:002015-01-29T12:34:52.470+00:00Great post, and great to see you fighting the good...Great post, and great to see you fighting the good fight and altering people stereotypical views on single dads or just dads in general. <br /><br />We need the media to wake up and start showing good role models, the more children see the more they copy.Ashley Beolenshttp://www.whenthedustsettles.co.uknoreply@blogger.com