tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post8917522274378432108..comments2024-01-01T23:50:46.656+00:00Comments on Inside Martyn's Thoughts: Why i don't mind if my Children are NaughtyMartyn Kitney http://www.blogger.com/profile/07564829931381366013noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-77719661179164004252015-08-26T15:15:54.841+01:002015-08-26T15:15:54.841+01:00Oh that has taken me back.... and now I have it to...Oh that has taken me back.... and now I have it to look forward to! Makes your eyes hurt. I know exactly what you mean.Bear and Cardiganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01828270309563096463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-76255140757893399142015-06-09T20:46:51.665+01:002015-06-09T20:46:51.665+01:00I completely get this!! And my boy is only little....I completely get this!! And my boy is only little. I think you've summed it up really well, it's a really lovely post. It's often easier to respond to things and move on when they are more definite in every aspect of life. Hoping you get a week of one or the another now! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02543713367793171575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-52129787161350588072015-06-09T00:21:37.743+01:002015-06-09T00:21:37.743+01:00I must apologise first because I did laugh a littl...I must apologise first because I did laugh a little at the bit where they creep up and click really loud in your ear! I know what you mean - there's good days, bad days and then these irritating days! #bigfatlinky<br />Debbie<br />www.myrandommusings.blogspot.comRandom Musingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05298522848171348845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-84324462425539560092015-06-08T12:27:10.818+01:002015-06-08T12:27:10.818+01:00I know exactly where you are coming from it can be...I know exactly where you are coming from it can be so hard telling kids off when they have not really done anything bad. I'm fortunate to have the sort of voice when a little cross that stops kids being naughty with the word "enough" but it never makes me feel good.Ashley Beolenshttp://www.whenthedustsettles.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-3788527367884950242015-06-07T23:15:43.513+01:002015-06-07T23:15:43.513+01:00I know exactly what you mean! When he's good h...I know exactly what you mean! When he's good he is amazing...when he wants to exert his authority or act in a certain manner, it is exhausting! I don't have much advice but I think like with everything, it's just a phase and it's always changing so we just have to wait it out. #bigfatlinkyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-86660638638779692262015-06-07T19:53:28.167+01:002015-06-07T19:53:28.167+01:00Oh man! I just want to give you a hug and a high-f...Oh man! I just want to give you a hug and a high-five right now. I am so drained right now, so exhausted and so frustrated with my kids. I'm physically & emotionally wiped out. Due to my wife's work schedule and a bizarre trip, I've essential had our 4 kids alone for 10 days. They haven't been terrible but they've been grey! (I didn't even realize it until I read your post) This is exactly what's going on. Thanks for writing this, for putting it into words. Now that I can consciously realize what's going on I can try to overcome it. (So to speak) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07745451781582707565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-60872561997782702912015-06-07T07:27:45.393+01:002015-06-07T07:27:45.393+01:00Can definitely relate to this - sadly not sure I h...Can definitely relate to this - sadly not sure I have an answer for 'grey' behaviour! You do a great job though, keep on keeping on! Luke Stricklandhttp://www.lukestrickland.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-85613588840682412652015-06-06T22:01:15.150+01:002015-06-06T22:01:15.150+01:00I have a 1 year old that's a real live wire bu...I have a 1 year old that's a real live wire but I see it as personality not naughtiness and his personality shining through. #bigfatlinky<br />Ali @ Mum in a NutshellAli https://www.blogger.com/profile/00162115723301826211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-17207992204729746752015-06-06T21:06:08.357+01:002015-06-06T21:06:08.357+01:00Mine is 9 but has shown signs of tween behaviour i...Mine is 9 but has shown signs of tween behaviour in her attitude to family members, mostly me and her grandparents but she's perfect elsewhere. It's just very draining when it happens and you feel exhausted waiting for the next thing to happen and wondering what will trigger it. I find it hard to know how and when to react because she has had some big things to deal with and has our living circumstances to contend with and sometimes my reaction has more to do with me than her. I never wanted to say don't, no, can't etc to her and I didn't want her to feel there are things she can't do or have bad days, bad moods etc. You just want them to be happy, healthy and successful 24/7 but life happens I guess #BigFatLinkyNKBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07261581344612853339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-2317629490550628982015-06-06T20:50:51.037+01:002015-06-06T20:50:51.037+01:00I completely understand what you are on about. M i...I completely understand what you are on about. M is 75% grey at the moment. It does my head in, and make my eyes hurt too. I end up shouting at her as i am tired. Bu I shouldn't be shouting as she's not being naughty, she is just being annoying!! Great post..and so relatable! :-) #bigfatlinky Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15422518812208359277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-56172813672672389292015-06-06T20:12:31.873+01:002015-06-06T20:12:31.873+01:00My children are 'good' children in that th...My children are 'good' children in that they are impeccably behaved elsewhere.So the big two are angels at school for example.This week there has been some bickering between the big two which is draining. I asked them what they thought their teachers would say if they saw them like that - they decided they would be very disappointed and they stopped ... for now lol ! #bigfatlinkyMummy Feverhttp://mummyfever.co.uk/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-69723574098925813282015-06-06T20:01:31.708+01:002015-06-06T20:01:31.708+01:00My boys are mostly good thankfully but as I type t...My boys are mostly good thankfully but as I type this my eldest is kicking off because he can't have a friend to sleep over grrr! Last sleepover we had to buy new bulbs in the lounge after the banging on the ceiling the night before from them all.<br /><br />I love my children, other people's children in my house....not so much ;)<br /><br />Stevie #BigFatLinkyStevie - A Cornish Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11182169869144330729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-39297004385159014212015-06-06T19:57:16.866+01:002015-06-06T19:57:16.866+01:00Never really thought of it this way, but I get wha...Never really thought of it this way, but I get what you're saying. #bigfatlinkyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13006727330831002627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-85953111143032351442015-06-06T18:33:56.427+01:002015-06-06T18:33:56.427+01:00I completely get what you mean, it can be such har...I completely get what you mean, it can be such hard work sometimes but the good outweigh the bad :) #BigFatLinkyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11182793978006633775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-3593860402800091182015-06-06T17:19:00.245+01:002015-06-06T17:19:00.245+01:00I know exactly where you are coming from Martyn. T...I know exactly where you are coming from Martyn. The middle ground can be pretty exhausting. The shoe thing - free. My toddler daughter tends to run off when I'm trying to help her get ready to go out... And the whining too... They certainly like to keep us on our toes. At least it sounds like you have the big stuff sussed which is impressive! #bigfatlinkyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06144938883489114252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-70667074326146088952015-06-06T14:33:06.969+01:002015-06-06T14:33:06.969+01:00I'm OK with just about anything except the whi...I'm OK with just about anything except the whining. Can't take the whining.jeremy@thirstydaddyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01221526503939455659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-3700406823172223582015-06-06T11:00:06.482+01:002015-06-06T11:00:06.482+01:00I can confirm this is a very normal feeling. I oft...I can confirm this is a very normal feeling. I often feel the low level behaviour effects, the best word I can think of also is drained. I feel totally washed out, I feel I nag from morning to night. I hate nagging so much and I hate the sound of my own voice constantly nagging. I have no idea why kids go through this, perhaps it's to test us and are patience skills. I often wonder whether its just my tolerance levels and some days I'm less able to cope with it then others. I'm glad I'm not the only one who also suffers this. My lovely children know how to push my buttons too and I think they test us #BigFatLinky Lianne https://www.blogger.com/profile/07053425673682471248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-42867513782452078242015-06-06T10:13:05.728+01:002015-06-06T10:13:05.728+01:00I completely agree. It's the grey that breaks ...I completely agree. It's the grey that breaks you! #bigfatlinkyHannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15189566615448906077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-63989940605962501722015-06-06T10:08:17.985+01:002015-06-06T10:08:17.985+01:00I left a long comment but don't think it made ...I left a long comment but don't think it made it due to internet probs! Apologies if I post twice :). <br />I agree with you totally and some days it feels like they're scraping away at my brain! It definitely depends on my tiredness levels too. I'm always grateful for it though because I remember a time when I wasn't sure our youngest with Down Syndrome would ever be capable of creating the 'young kid white noise' thing...which of course he is!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12813633111075125328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-76571250994688865632015-06-06T08:51:53.170+01:002015-06-06T08:51:53.170+01:00For me it's the whining when nothing is wrong....For me it's the whining when nothing is wrong. Enough to send a mum doolally. Think it's an unavoidable part of being a parent, unfortunately.<br /><br />#bigfatlinkyMama, My Kid Doesn't Poop Rainbowshttp://pooprainbows.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-15555978558161442722015-06-06T06:54:29.856+01:002015-06-06T06:54:29.856+01:00This, Martyn, is just life with young kids. I have...This, Martyn, is just life with young kids. I have two girls and they can wear me down. Interestingly, when they're split up and get one on one time they are both a delight. It;s when they;re together that there's a perpetual low-grade white noise. As the SAH parent I deal with this a lot more than my wife. She can struggle with it quite a lot but to me it;s kinda become second nature. Oh, and who wants perfect kids? I think any young child who is absolutely perfect is almost certain to grow into some sort of sociopathic, homocidal freak in later life. JOhn Adamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17077534084869594181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-52080385457996825872015-06-06T01:09:36.703+01:002015-06-06T01:09:36.703+01:00As the saying goes, boys will be boys. I know what...As the saying goes, boys will be boys. I know what you mean. Being naughty is all part of growing up. I look at it as a means of testing boundaries and challenging the world around them. If kids don't ever do anything wrong, I'd suggest they're probably not trying hard enough. Better to learn where the acceptable limits are and discover when it's okay to bend the rules and when it isn't than to forever go through life too afraid to be adventurous.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-62693281518903170352015-05-26T10:05:34.773+01:002015-05-26T10:05:34.773+01:00Thanks for commenting! I think a lot of it is also...Thanks for commenting! I think a lot of it is also based on my mood and patience level. Sometimes I can just shrug it off but other times I'm like your partner. I know they're kids and they do this. And it's better than them being boring. <br />Thank you for your lovely comments too.Martyn Kitney https://www.blogger.com/profile/07564829931381366013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-65034528297777014902015-05-26T10:02:15.280+01:002015-05-26T10:02:15.280+01:00Thanks for commenting Hannah. I'm so pleased I...Thanks for commenting Hannah. I'm so pleased I'm not alone. Sounds like you're living exactly what I am!Martyn Kitney https://www.blogger.com/profile/07564829931381366013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-711396098826909299.post-84644806641735908462015-05-26T10:01:11.793+01:002015-05-26T10:01:11.793+01:00Thanks for commenting! ha I know what you mean. I&...Thanks for commenting! ha I know what you mean. I'm equally frustrated but at the same time I'm pleased my children aren't boring. But a little bit of peace would be good.Martyn Kitney https://www.blogger.com/profile/07564829931381366013noreply@blogger.com