Valentines Day 2015

 

So it has come round to that day of the year again.

This year, like the two before, I am single.

Without sounding like a single moaner I really don’t enjoy Valentine’s Day this is largely to do with the hype surrounding it.

This is where my biggest problem lies: Building a potential anti-climax, depending on how you see it, where we are seeing people pushed to celebrate and show their love and affection to one, or more, people.

Now I know what you’re thinking this is a single man’s rant over a loving holiday but it really isn’t. For anyone who knows me then you would know I am the biggest softy and romantic going! I love showing my affection towards people.

And if I am in a relationship I try to do my best to show that person that I love them.

 (Although I have always been a softy and a romantic at heart I will admit in the past I have been a bit rubbish at showing it and have fallen into “routine”)

I actually, probably strangely, enjoy getting to know a person and being attentive to that person’s life. If I think, in anyway, that I could put a smile on someone’s face, despite being in a relationship with them or not, by showing them how special they are then I will. Yet, despite the advertising and the hype, I don’t just do this on one day a year; I would happily show my appreciation or affection to people all year round.

It saddens me then that we can fall into the stereotype of showing someone you love how much they really mean to you on just one day.

Don’t get me wrong; I will see couples who are so in love, who show their love and affection through big gesture and small all year round. I have been lucky enough to witness some beautiful relationships. This being said though there are some who will make the extra effort because it’s “that day that you really make the effort”

It is one reason why I enjoy blog posts from people like The Dad Network promoting a regular Date Night because sometimes we get into the routine that we only show this affection on Birthdays and Valentine’s Day.

When I was in relationships I would try once a month, at least, to eat out or have a date night.

That being said it is still great to see people spoiling each other as everyone deserves to be spoilt.

As for being Single three, if not more, Valentine’s Days in a row well I am not overly bothered.

I would love to find someone and have a happy relationship. There are obvious aspects that I miss especially just having another adult around instead of being surrounded by children. This being said I do love my single life; it has its perks:

• Spending more time with the Boys!
• No one to share the bed or duvet with!
• No need to spend any unnecessary money!
• No arguing over big or small things!
• I get to spend more time on the Blog.
• I can enjoy my hobbies like playing the Piano, Reading or Drawing without splitting my time.
• I can watch what I want on the TV.
• Spending more time with my lovely friends.

I also know that I am a great catch; there are definitely moments where I don’t like myself or my qualities but once I have snapped out of that mind-set I can clearly see me as being awesome.

(Despite what others have suggested is ‘wrong’ with me)

I know at some point my single status will change but I am reminded that I don’t need to rush into anything either.

I do hope though for all you loved up happy couples out there that you do have a lovely, spoilt, day. I also hope though that you drop little hints to make it a regular thing ;-)

And for my fellow Singletons enjoy the day, love yourself and have some fun!!