Daddy are you Single?

Wanted to share a little funny conversation that I had with William recently. But to do so I feel that I should fill you in a bit.

My access to the boys, these last two weeks, have changed slightly but hopefully will be back to normal by this coming Sunday with 50/50 split.

This change has been a mix of me and a discussion with the boys Mum.

I suffer, as I have mentioned in other posts, from a personality disorder called 'Dependant Personality Disorder'; DPD for short.

I know this makes me sound slightly crazy but it honestly doesn't affect my day to day too much. That is unless I have a trigger; Due to the DPD I do not tend to form close friendships or relationships with people because if something changes or disrupts it then it can knock me.

This happened with a friend of mine. We were close; On the outside some could have said that we were closer than friends yet on the inside it was confusing, for me at least, but we labelled it as friends. We had constant contact throughout the day, lengthy phone calls in the evening and saw each other a couple of times a week. Yet due to a falling out it instantly stopped. This subsequently triggered my DPD to flare.

I have a fairly open and honest communication with the Boys Mum. I took my time and spoke to her about what was going on. We, through her suggestion, decided to stick to my day access with the boys but to return them to her of an evening for a couple of weeks so I could a: rest properly and b:use these coping mechanisms to push back a bit quicker.

William, however, must have noticed this change and, although I was unaware of it until today, has spoken to his Mum as to why they were not sleeping at Daddy's house.

After speaking to the their Mum earlier, over a few different things, I told her this funny, strange yet amusing, conversation that William and I had.

Whilst we were on our Home School adventure looking for information on Recycling at the local contact point and our Library William decided to ask me a question.

Will: Daddy are you Single?

Me: Yes Darling, I am. (A little taken back by this question but answered none the less)

Will: I feel sorry for you Daddy; You must be the only Daddy who can't get a girlfriend. Is there something wrong with you not to get one?

(Thanks Mate, I appreciate your honesty and the fact that you are only 5 years old and just tore your already low Daddy to the ground and kicked him whilst he's down there)

Me: But Daddy doesn't need a girlfriend. It gives me more time to spend with you and James.


William at this point looked at me. He gave me that look where his eyes searched every inch of my face. The look that lingers a tiny bit longer than it should do. He took one final look into my eyes and carried on with our Recycling project.

I was relieved; William in the past has asked many awkward questions I knew this could go on for a while. Luckily, whatever crossed his mind, he decided to drop the subject and move on.

Personally I don't think he bought it though.

It was only, as I said before, that I spoke to the boys Mum. After she had finished laughing down the phone at me she did give me a little clarity. William had asked her why he wasn't sleeping at Daddy's house. Her response was that "Daddy had been feeling unwell because his girlfriend had upset him and they weren't talking"

Obviously this girl wasn't my girlfriend and I assume that from his Mums point of view this was the best way to explain and answer his question.

Wow though!! Clever boy; He clearly wanted to fish out what was going on and get to grips with this question.

Have your relationship status ever been questioned by your child?


What funny things have your children ever come out with?