My Best Friend and the Northern Adventure

This week is quite an exciting one for me; this is the week, particularly today, I get to meet one of my best friends!

I'm talking about the lovely Ally over at messedupmum.com so I apologise but this is a bit of a gush post but a well-deserved one!

We haven't really known each other that long; in the sense of time we have only known each other for around 6 months. Our friendship came through blogging at a time when both of us needed that extra bit of support.

So how haven’t you met yet? This is a simple answer: we live on opposite sides of the country.

But it's still easy to let her be my best friend.

(I a few people that I call friends but only have two 'best friends' in the world and strangely both live miles away; although in the case of Paul I did grow up with him locally)

Despite the myth of the film 'When Harry met Sally' that men and women can't be friends without it getting complicated with sex; well we are! Not once has sex ever crossed my mind or our conversation.

The initial friendship came through her blog:

If you haven’t come across it before it's a mix between parenting, mental health and a bit of Ally thrown in. The latter part in one of my favourite things; It's difficult to place your stamp at times especially if you are just Blogging ‘yourself’.  Ally though has done this with her blog showing exactly who she is and one that I instantly connected with.

Her parenting posts are great and despite a variety of mental health, as well as physical health, problems she is raising her son J brilliantly. So, again, we shared a lot of styles and approaches to life.

From this our friendship grew to where it is now. We talk all the time on the phone or through messages and there isn't a day that goes by when we don't; it’s not constant from the second we wake up to the time we sleep but we still chat through the day. We laugh, we cry, we insult and we support each other through life's highs and lows; filling each other in on everything.

To be honest there was a time when I was guarded and wasn't letting people in. I lost the trust of opening myself up to people and even recently have felt the same; in life people can really misplace or disregard the friendship and trust that you give and have through a selfish attitude.

(I even remember having this conversation with her but she never backed down thankfully)

The thing with Ally is that not once did she ask for something that she wasn't giving in return; I don't think I've ever had an equal friendship, where one thought that they were giving more than the other, like the one I have with her. She is someone of fantastic love, morals and exceedingly high strength. So it was easy to let my guard down and let her in and trust someone again.

(And as we know Men Don't Talk, or at least easily)

I know that whatever happens we have each other’s back; through the good and bad. Even in times when I'm being rather difficult!         (And I know at times I am a difficult fish!)

I know a lot of people would question our friendship but that doesn't matter because deep down I don't.

In my own personal lows I have been scared and full of fear that she will turn out like everyone else but then time and time again she proves that she is the friend that in my heart I know she is. There fully 100% without any question or ask.

So as you can see I'm crazy about my mate, and definitely not in the way people might presume, only because of who she is and how great our friendship is.

So hence this post and my excitement: this is the week I actually get to meet her and to spend a few days with someone I have nothing but utter friendship and respect for.

So let's bring it on; when I get back I'll fill you all in on 'When Marty met Ally' (see what I did there!) and my trip up north for my northern adventure.

But don’t think I’m abandoning the blog either; I am of course going to be meeting another blogger so there will be blogging!